Finding the Motivation That Moves You
Self-Care Series: Finding the Motivation That Moves You
Motivation, as defined by Oxford Languages, is “the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.” When we’re building new habits in pursuit of our goals, understanding what motivates us becomes a powerful tool in our wellness toolbox.
There are two main types of motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic.
Intrinsic motivation comes from within — it’s fueled by genuine enjoyment or satisfaction. The behavior itself feels rewarding. Think of someone who tidies their bedroom simply because a tidy space brings them peace at the end of the day.
Extrinsic motivation, on the other hand, comes from outside rewards — praise, recognition, or something tangible. For example, studying for an exam to earn a high grade, or completing a project at work to receive positive feedback.
Both types of motivation can serve us well, especially when we know which one to lean into for a given goal.
Finding What Drives You
Understanding the “why” behind your actions can make a big difference in achieving lasting results. As a coach, I often work with clients who want to start or stay consistent with a new habit. While there are many factors that shape success, discovering what motivates you personally often makes all the difference.
Let me share a story to bring this to life. When I was in third grade, I had a wonderful teacher named Dorothy Kobus. That was the year we learned our multiplication tables — not exactly thrilling stuff! But Ms. Kobus had a special trick up her sleeve. Every time a student scored 100% on a quiz, she rewarded them with 15 colorful mini marshmallows. (Yes, marshmallows! Not the healthiest choice, but effective.)
So, I went home every night and practiced my times tables relentlessly. Why? First, because I wanted those marshmallows — that’s extrinsic motivation. And second, because I loved the feeling of pride and accomplishment after mastering them — intrinsic motivation.
Applying This to Your Own Habits
Fast-forward to today. Let’s say you’re trying to build a new habit, such as meditating for five minutes each morning.
If you’re driven by extrinsic motivation, you might give yourself a tangible reward — perhaps a checkmark on your calendar for each day you complete your meditation, with a small self-care treat after 20 days.
If you thrive on intrinsic motivation, your reward might simply be how you feel after meditating — calmer, more grounded, and ready to take on the day with clarity.
There’s no “better” type of motivation. The key is awareness — knowing which one speaks to you and using it intentionally as you build consistency. Motivation can’t do the work for you, but it can spark the momentum that carries you forward.
Bringing It All Together
Adopting a new habit isn’t always simple, but when you anchor it to what truly motivates you, you create a foundation for success. Motivation is not just about willpower — it’s about connection. When you connect to your reasons, your actions begin to align with your goals more naturally.
If you’re ready to explore your motivation and make meaningful changes that stick, I’d love to help. My coaching programs are designed to meet you where you are and guide you toward the lifestyle and wellness habits that actually fit your life.
Visit Rising Tides Wellness by Leslie or Body Works Wellness to learn more about how personal guidance and tailored coaching can help you build habits that last — from the inside out.
